Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Mid Week Thoughts

Oh hello end of October! 

Seriously where did the year go? 

These two days has been such a mixture of the good and the bad. 

The bad being getting the back of my car bumped by a poor lady who was so freaked out that her husband had to deal with the insurance claims instead. Surprisingly, Bubba was calmer than her even though she was in the car with me when that happened. I felt so bad for her that I had to calm her down when we were exchanging papers.

So that has transpired into a series of visits to the car workshop and time spent dealing with claims and all but that's all done and the car is being fixed as we speak so hopefully we can get it back before the weekend.

And the good?! (I always love the good)

Since my vitasoy post, I've been receiving a few more packets from either son these few days. Such a lovely pick up treat at school pick up. 

And we had a massive birthday party over the weekend for Bubba. She's turned 4! Can you believe it? I can't but I'll save that for another day. 

We followed up with a smaller rainbow Hello Kitty party in school on Monday. She was so stoked when we showed up with cupcakes and balloons!! I love seeing the expression on her face! xx

Exams are also finally over so yay for that! Hello holidays!!

And in the midst of the car drama and all, we have been spending so time feasting and celebrating birthdays with our dearest friends, having daily coffee catch ups with our favourite peeps at our favourite coffee joint, checking out new spaces (more on that) and just loving life at the moment. 

It's really the moments that count, isn't it? 

I am feeling very very blessed to be surrounded by people who love us and whom we adore back.

Happy hump day, everyone!!

Thursday, October 24, 2013

Raising a SNAG

My 8 year old is growing up to be a lovely young man.

I guess, as parents, we hardly see significant growth in kids until we look back and recount.  However, lately, it's very prevalent that this little kiddo is maturing.

I believe his language of love is "acts" as he likes doing little things for people. Here are a few instances.

I had a headache just the other day. And after taking a nap, it was still lingering around. But it was time to send the joys for enrichment so I had to get up and go. I casually mentioned it to K when we were walking to the lift and once we got into the car, he immediately put his fingers on my temple to massage it. And he turned to his little brother and said 'hey Jake! Can you move to the back so that I can sit in the middle to massage mummy's head cause she has a headache."

Once in a while, he would ask if we would like a foot massage and he would just stand there and rub our feet. My husband loves it whenever he offers. It's like his personal masseuse.

So this arvo, as I picked him up from school, he brought me a packet of vitasoy and said 'Here mum! I bought you this because you like it' and my heart just melted into a puddle of goo. I LOVE VITASOY and I love that he knows it. :)

Now I must be doing something right in this parenting gig to deserve someone this special as a kid, yeah?

Click! Smile!!

Inspired by the always creative Debra and Pam, we spent one morning crafting a cardboard camera for the little miss.

It was so simple and such a fuss free project that even I was surprised at how quickly it all came together. =) Even the materials were procured from around the house. And we always love recycled projects! They are always the best toys!

Kate loves to paint so she absolutely relished coloring her soon to be camera. Of course, her little bunny rabbit had to be involved as a spectator. 

And what's a budding photographer to do with her new toy? Well, a photo walk was imminent and we had so much fun seeing the photographer in her! She went around taking pictures of her favourite people and flowers of all different sorts in the nursery. Definitely mummy's girl in this aspect!

If she had a memory card in that paper camera, I wonder what pictures we would see. Ah I love my girl at this stage. =)

“Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life's coming attractions.” 
― Albert Einstein

Monday, October 21, 2013

Sundays at Home

Perhaps we are getting older but, by and by, we are slowly spending more time at home.

We weren't always like that.

We used to spend every weekend out running every possible errand or just hanging out at some cafe.

However, things change with this apartment. We find ourselves spending half our weekend just chilling out here. The space is welcoming enough for every one to have their own space, keeping the noise level to a minimal.

I can cook or bake to my heart's fancy with the kitchen my husband built me. And the kids have a room that they can lay back to read or have their toys sprawled all over during their play time. My husband loves nothing more than lounging in front of the telly, or you can definitely find him resting in the bedroom, a good break from his daily hectic life.

When we first viewed this apartment, I thought it would be perfect for us.

And I guess it really is. =)

Happy Monday, folks!!

Sunday, October 20, 2013

A SAHM's Sanity Saver List

And just like that, with the eldest turning 8, it marks the sixth year of me being a full time mom.

It's been a long journey. I guess with every season, brings along new surprises and milestones. Now with my boys in primary school and the little one who's moving onto kinder next year, things have settled into a nice smooth rhythm.

So how to preserve your sanity in the throes of bringing up kids? Here's what I do.

1. Have a schedule. 

I'm big on scheduling. I like knowing what the kids are meant to do at a certain time of the day. This applies on weekdays. It helps me keep track of their school progress as well as set time aside for their other activities and play time. The kids also know what to expect at different times of the day.

2. Have a hobby and be active

This can be done at home or outside of home. By hobby, I mean doing something for yourself. I love to cook and bake. It's my kind of therapy. So I experiment with new dishes all the time. 

Outside of home, I find time to work out and I go for pole classes. These happen in the mornings or late in the evenings.  My mum or D would babysit when I go for classes. I love the camaderi√® of the pole community and I always have a good time at classes with my girlfriends. So when I head home, I am much happier as I feel that I've had some time to be something other than mum.

3. Friends are your best allies 

The Chinese says it takes a village to raise a child. I agree. When I had the boys in Melbourne, I was very young and had no family around. Fortunately, Australia has a fabulous system where every new mom gets inducted into a mothers group. It is strongly encouraged that you attend as you get put into groups with babies of a similar birthdate from your child. I've made so many friends there and built a good support network of moms whom I can seek advice if need be. It also got me out of the house, which is very much a sanity saver in more ways than one, looking back.

My girlfriends are the ones I turn to for anything. I've also got mummy friends to ask advice from. It definitely helps to have a myriad of friends for different aspects of your life. :) At times, I'd schedule a mid day coffee break with the girls just to have a quick catch up. Always a lovely thing to do. =)

4. Date nights

The husband and I love our personal time. I guess we like spending time to eat and catch up with each other. We would do short travels now and then but once a fortnight or on Saturday when my kids go to Sunday school with gramps, we would  go grab dinner or catch a movie. The husband is definitely #1 in my list so I like to nurture the relationship we share. Cos when the kids are grown, he's the one I've got to grow old with.

5. Dress up

I ever mentioned in a blog post eons ago, it's important to look good. And you gotta dress up for no one else but yourself. Why? Because you will always feel like you are ready to take on the day once you are out of your pjs or house clothes. I'm mostly in simple stuff like dresses or shorts. But I like to add on a necklace or some arm swag to make the outfit brighter or cheerier. =)

6. Spend time playing with the kids

It's very easy to get caught up with the academic portion of school. Trust me, I know. But it's very important to play too! Remember, play is the work of a child. =)

These kids of mine are older and now they enjoy playing board games. And these boys are so competitive when they play. It's a little scary for mum here! ;) Gotta be on top of my game here!

Sometimes, though, all I wanna do is lounge around and watch travel or cooking programs. So they'll sit with me and watch with me. What they love to do is to tell me their thoughts during the program. :/ It's a little distracting but hey! I'd rather have a kid that wants to talk to me than not.

7. Teach kids life skills

This is very important for me. I started with little things when they were younger like self feeding. Then moved on to bigger items like dressing yourself. Now they have little chores like keeping their toys and books (which they sneakily would ask my helper for assistance at times) I find that it matters to impart independence because they eventually would need to learn to fend for themselves when they are out in society. So that makes me want to ensure that they are socially and emotionally able to cope with the challenges that life would throw them. I'd like to think they are doing ok so far.

8. Be positive

I like starting my day with positive thoughts and, at times, a prayer. Kids can be pretty unpredictable. So there are good times and certainly bad times. I live by the mantra, "this too shall pass" which has served me really well in this journey. And I know that, despite the naughtiness at times, they are still good kids. So it's just a matter of showing and teaching them the etiquette of life. 

9. Lastly, always end the day on a good note.

You know how they say you shouldn't go to bed angry with our spouse? I'm sure this rule gets broken A LOT with the husband (guilty!) but, with the kids, it's important for them to learn to go to bed knowing they are loved. Bed time stories are a great way to start. We all snuggle in bad, and I'd read a few stories befor calling it a night.

You'd notice that most of the actions are focused on you. The trick I've learnt is to always always have time for yourself. It does get crazy from time to time or even on a daily basis but, in order to cope, mum needs to be happy first. 

Hope this works, for you guys! Would love go hear what works for you guys as well! xx

Tuesday, October 15, 2013

On Turning 8

Dear Kayden,

You turned 8 last week and what a delightful age this has been. I promised you that we would throw a party this year and we celebrated it over the weekend with a bunch of friends that you've carefully handpicked.

So what's a bunch of 8 year olds to do at a park on Saturday? Well, laser tag, of course. I knew that it would be something that you would love doing, seeing how active you are. And we were right.

You guys had such a blast running around the park, shooting at your opponents and strategising against them. Every one had a good time and I think you were very very stoked to have your friends there. Ah! The joys of friendship.

You were grinning from cheek to cheek when the games were over and even when you woke up the following day, it was still there.

I was just telling Auntie R the other day about how long it has been since we first found out we were pregnant with you. In more ways than one, you were the one that made us a family first. And it's been rather gratifying seeing the kind of kid and person you are becoming. We learnt that you are an outdoorsy boy who loves to swim and run. Rugby is now becoming one of your favourite activities to do. I can already see the adrenaline junkie in you.

You are also very much a foodie kid. Your taste buds certainly know what's delicious and worth consuming. More often than not, you prefer Italian and Japanese cuisine but these days, we can see that you are getting really adventurous with trying new stuff like chilli. (Mee pok ta ke hiam, one day?) It's gonna be good eating out with you when you are older.

What I like about you is how seriously you take your responsibility as a kor kor and how you always try to keep them in line. No matter how much they ignore you, you make sure they must know how to behave. Yet you play with them, make sure they get to their intended destinations and you will always have their back at the end of the day.

I count myself lucky that you still come and kiss me goodnight and that even though you can read competently now, you still like a good bed time story. Ah! Don't grow up too soon. I'm not ready for that yet.

You are a great kid. Don't you forget that. We all love you and I'm very very glad that you had fun at your party. =)

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