Tuesday, September 18, 2012

Parenting Lesson #1526377

The almost seven year old has been quite a challenge to deal with lately.

He is, by and large, an independent kid who is pretty easy to raise. All except for his stubborn streak, which I supposed has fallen not too far from the apple tree.

I observed lately that he has been going through a phase of wanting things and then crying when he doesn't get them. It has evolved into a cycle and we (as in D and I) would get really exasperated in dealing with his tantrums.

It gets me all frazzled up especially when I have to nag and hassle him to spend time practising his violin or doing some catch up in his assessment books.

Which I guess, to a seven year old, would be the most boring thing to do at any point of the day.

And the part that really makes me upset is how he would ask to eat or do something specific and if we decline, he would throw a hissy fit.

In a way, I feel we might have over indulged him, unknowingly. He started having little regard for how much things cost. And it's probably time to rein him in.

I was almost at my wits end dealing with his random tantrums when some thing happened over the weekend.

We were out having lunch with friends. He was playing with my iPad when he dropped it in the floor. Complete with a booming loud crack. That shook him up. He knew he was in trouble. We have warned him many times to be careful with his belongings.

I gave him a strict talking to (because I feel he's old enough to comprehend) and his Daddy mandated that he needs to pull out his piggy bank to pay for the repairs.

K has always been pretty diligent in saving. In fact, he leans towards the stoogy side because he doesn't like to take any amount out for any occasion.

It might seem cruel to punish him this way but we know that only by emptying his piggy bank, he would learn that he needs to look after his things. He cried upon knowing what is requested. However, when it was time for him to count his coins, he gamely took it on.

I guess it was a big step for him. We will make sure this is followed through. My biggest regret would be raising 'strawberry' kids. I have faith that we will be sure to bring them up to appreciate the things they have.

And as for the nagging, I've wrote a schedule for him to follow through. It would put the onus on him to work through his tasks and it's easier for me to keep track on his progress.

I've put in place a rewards chart too so that he has a goal to work towards too! So hopefully we are off to a good start.

Parenting is such a mixed bag of nuts isn't it?

2 comments:

  1. I remember him crying when you guys were about to leave D&Z's the other day! Think coz he wanted to eat somewhere?

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  2. gosh, it gets harder and harder in this parenting gig eh! all these make pregnancy and childbirth look the easiest bit to becoming parents.

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