There were four things I wanted to do before I turned 25.
- Graduate from Uni
Did that at 21. Could've gone on to do honours but didn't have the funds to do it. No regrets though. I have lots of fun working.
- Live overseas
After uni, I stayed on in Melbourne to look for work and apply for residency. It wasn't hard at that time, as compared to the students now. Was really lucky and blessed to find a job that quickly as well. Thank God.
It's been five years now and I still love Melbourne. Its lifestyle still suits us but we have plans ahead for changes soon.
- Buy a car
Bought our Honda when I was twenty three. I was happy. It's such a great economical car that is fuel effient. And it's still running great! Although I have plans to upgrade once we get our house. There's just no space for anything or anyone else for that matter with the two baby seats at the back.
- Buy a house
Well, that is still work in progress. When it comes to this hefty investment, the hubbi and I are just taking our time. We try not to get too emotionally attached to any of the houses that we see, lest we get disappointed.
And so far, we're still looking. The right house will come soon, me thinks. We dun want to rush into the wrong house.
Along the way I got more than I bargained for.
Well I got wed to Darien at twenty three. I always call him a cradle snatcher. But it's been a ball. I never thought I would be fortunate enough to have a life partner like him.
He's more than what I can ever ask for. He pretty much leaves me to run my life the way that I want it. No pressure on the household front. [We have to resort to a part-time help for household chores.] So if I dun cook, we would eat out.
I guess we have a different approach to happily ever after. We dun take it that seriously. Like the commitment does not over run our lives. We just take things as it comes, like the rest of our lives. We tend to love our independence as individuals as well as a couple. It's true to a certain extent that the kids have held the union a lil stronger. We tend to want to be better human beings for them. And we want the best for them, that we are now thinking of our twenty year plan.
A girlfriend commented that I'm lucky that I have a husband who gives me the option of not working. Cos it would be a different scenario in SG. The wife would be expected to return to work after maternity leave. However, I am thinking of going back next year to pick up from where I left off. And then she added that no man could tolerate my shopping aka spending habits. It's true I'd reckon.
On the day that Kayden's in daycare, he would tell me to go and do my things. Not stay at home to catch up on the laundry, which is what I usually do.
That said, we do have our fights and all. But we tend to make up before the night is over. He still annoys me with his mess and weird idiosyncracies but I've learnt to live with it.
So yes that is the man that I married. Warts and all.
My gosh! If anyone told me that I would be a mother at twenty four... that person would've gotten a big smack on the bum!
But it did happen.
We are now parents of not one child but two. It's been a ball. Only parents will understand what another parent is going through. The boys bring us so much joy.
I remember the time they handed Kayden over to me at the OR. It was like we were just ready. There was so much love that this child invoked in us right from the start.
Kayden is the independent soul who is really busy around the household. He loves his doggy. Likes to explore and is so big on cuddles.
Baby J is my lil munchkin. He loves his kisses. A big cheeky grin is the reward of all those smooches. He's a lil different from his older brother. He doesn't like a noisy environment. And the hubbi said its becos we didn't play MJ while we were pregnant with him.
So yes... that all sums up the last two years of my life. Just some thoughts as the end of the year approaches. It's time to make a new list for the new year!